When asked How are you? or How’s your day going? many people answer by saying not too bad. Their reply is often automatic, with little or no awareness of what they’re telling the world…or themselves. They may even believe their reply is the equivalent of saying I’m good. It’s not. Not even remotely. Although that’s what we might assume–for consciously we translate the meaning–that’s not what the subconscious mind hears.
When we think or say a phrase with no, not, and never, our mind dismisses the term of negation and focuses on what follows. This is hardwired into our brains; it’s just the way they work. If you doubt this could be true, please take a look at the following:
- Do not think of an elephant (You just thought of an elephant).
- No stress (You just reaffirmed stress).
- Not too bad (Your subconscious mind heard bad).
- No problem (Your mind didn’t hear it’s okay).
- No onions (Your server just heard onions, and now has to remember them–so as not to place them on your burger).
Is there a point to this? One even remotely connected to our understanding of the Law of Attraction? There certainly is: It’s important to remember that our true nature is that of creators. We may have bought into the illusion that all we are is flesh and bones; but we’re so much more! We’re the highest expression of the Creator of All, and as such we create in the same manner as our Creator. We use thoughts, words, focus, and–later–action to create what we’ve allowed (or deliberately placed) into our mind. If we desire to continue to have days that are not too bad, we needn’t change our words at all. If, however, we desire to raise the bar and strive for great days–or the life that we deserve–I’d like to suggest the following changes. So, once again, with feeling: How are you?
- I’m great, thanks!
- Fine, just fine.
Am I suggesting that we should become automatons, with canned dialogue that’s disconnected from truth? No. If we are feeling down, it may be appropriate to express our feelings and be real. Often, however, the expression (not too bad) isn’t even remotely connected to the actual state of our day or being. I’d also like to reiterate that the subconscious mind functions in a literal manner. It can neither reason nor question; nor is it capable of interpreting nuance, inflection, or sarcasm. It simply accepts meaning and content–including our words, and everyone else’s–at face value. It also functions 24/7, without a day off…ever!
Our choice of words is so important, I’m going to use an analogy to make the point even more clear. In this scenario, I’d like you to imagine that you’re a golf pro to a rising golf star. You’ve been entrusted with teaching him the intricacies of the game. You’re being paid very well, but you implicitly understand that your job depends on the outcome of an upcoming tournament, the kid’s first. You know that if he wins, you win. You also realize what happens if he loses.
An hour before the tournament is due to begin, you take the promising young player aside, look him directly in the eyes, and deliver the following pep talk: “I know you’re probably feeling a lot of pressure right now. That’s understandable. I just want to give you some last-minute pointers. First: Do not–whatever you do–overshoot on Hole Three. Second: Don’t catch that gaping bunker on Hole Seven. Third: Never–I repeat, never–lose your focus while putting! Got it?”
Having read and–I hope–understood the first part of this article regarding the words we use and how the subconscious functions, what instructions do you think the subconscious heard just prior to tee off? Right! Overshoot on Hole Three; catch the bunker on Hole Seven; and lose your focus while putting! I think we also realize that your days as a golf pro will be over at the end of the day! We’ll benefit by understanding this: We should never place a thought process into the mind if we don’t desire to experience it in our outer reality. Real life situations–with consequences far more important than a round of golf–may be at stake:
- I am vibrantly healthy versus I am not sick.
- I am in the process of creating great prosperity versus I am not poor.
- I am going to ace this exam versus I am not going to fail.
While this might seem like fun and games, I’d like to emphasize that the words we use literally make a world of difference. The results we experience are intimately connected to what we tell ourselves and others. Our subconscious mind is always listening, always present, always ready to act. We do ourselves a tremendous service by letting it overhear something good.
Dare to dream (and care for one another).
With heartfelt regards,
Copyright © – 2020 – R. Arthur Russell
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