Good Storytellers

Storytellers

Remember with me…now, to when we were little children, perhaps six, seven, or eight years of age. At that time, someone we knew–perhaps a good friend or relative–may have told us a ghost story. Listening intently, we felt our muscles tighten, shivers run down our spine, and our breath tighten as we imagined ghosts in the attic, the creak of doors opening by invisible forces, or a sudden frostiness in darkened halls. In spite of being frightened, we may have soon begged to hear another.

What we didn’t realize at the time, was that our body was creating real reactions to those fictitious ghosts. Now, of course, we know that the ghosts–the ones with eyeballs dangling from empty sockets, severed body parts, and oooohhhh-sounding voices–aren’t real; but at the time we believed they were. And because of that, our hearts beat faster, our eyes dilated, and the rate of our breathing increased. Our bodies reacted as though those ghosts were real. And the point of this article is?

This: That even though the ghost stories are long gone, we’re still telling stories. They’re just different. In fact, we’re telling them to ourselves every day. The stories we tell now most likely revolve around health, wealth, family, careers, and relationships. They also relate to what we imagine is possible or impossible for us. We’re telling ourselves: I am this, or I am that. I can or I can’t. Life always works out for me, or I was born to lose! I’m unlovable, ugly, and poor; or I’m lovable, beautiful, and rich! And as a consequence of the nature of stories we’re telling–some of which may be very scary–we experience correlating positive or negative consequences. For example:

Every time we tell ourselves illness-based stories, our bodies react by matching what we’re telling ourselves–perhaps by delivering more aches and pains, or another health issue to be investigated. The body might deliver the ache first, but it is we who add to the story by thinking, “Oh, there’s that ache again. Could it be…?” Conversely, if it’s a health-based story, we have nothing to do but enjoy the harmonious ease with which our body functions. For every time that we tell ourselves a poverty-based story, our subconscious mind delivers a way to fritter away money, turn down a great job opportunity, or instill another belief that we are destined to be poor. A prosperity-based story, of course, functions by motivating us to create the results that match that type of story. It’s just the way this reality works. The sad part is that many people don’t realize that results are directly related to the type of thoughts we engage. This will make more sense when we realize that it wasn’t real ghosts that frightened us as little children; it was merely the thought of ghosts that created the effects. The point? That thought was–and still is–the power.

Consider this: Do you believe that repeatedly telling yourself “I’m having a crappy day” makes any difference to the quality of your experience? Do you believe that thinking “I’ll never find a wonderful partner” can help you find that great relationship? Do you believe that saying “I’m broke, and I’m always going to be broke” can help you effectively manage your finances? Amidst even the most chaotic and unsettling circumstances, we may tell ourselves the most amazing story–through our thought commentary–and maintain our calm center. Émile Coué, a french psychologist and pharmacist (1857 – 1926), realized the importance of what we’re habitually telling ourselves. A firm believer in the power of autosuggestion, he coined the well-known expression: Every day, in every way, I’m getting better and better.”

So how do we make a better life? By realizing that the type of story we’re telling ourselves can transform our lives! If we want to be scared, we can focus on a fear-based and negative story lines. If, however, we desire a wonderful life, we would be wise to make great health, wealth, success, peace, and joy the underlying theme. To empower ourselves even more, we might use wording such as “I am strong, confident, powerful, courageous, and whole.” It’s our book of life. We are the author. We owe it to ourselves to tell a good story…now. Don’t you think?

Dare to dream.

With heartfelt regards,

Art

Copyright © – 2016 – R. Arthur Russell

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Something Wonderful

Something Wonderful

A woman named Claire (not her real name, for reasons of privacy and respect) recently shared an account of an incident that holds value for those of us who deliberately want to attract more of what we desire. It relates to a fortune cookie, and the message that she keeps in her purse. So…

Only a few days ago, Claire was paying for some groceries at the checkout line. As she was doing so, the message–something wonderful will happen for you today–fell out of her purse. Fortunately, the checkout lady noticed it, and Claire was able to return it to her purse for safe keeping. I’m not implying that I believe (nor did Claire) that a fate can be decided by a mass-produced message within a fortune cookie. I do believe, however, that what we attract into our lives is directly related to the thoughts we keep uppermost in mind.

Through various sources (internet and books), I’ve read that our subconscious mind is able to process approximately 400,000,000,000 bits of information a second. Our conscious mind, however, can only process approximately 2,000 bits; this is relatively still a large amount of processing power. Although I have no way of verifying if this is factual, I think we may at least conclude that the difference in processing capability of the conscious and subconscious minds is vast. What this tells me is that in any given moment there must be some form of selection process (focus?) that determines what we will experience in our lives. I imagine this as blinders on a horse, a device which limits the horse’s view to that which is straight ahead; permitting it–in a way–to see only a slice of the reality actually available.

The role of focus in our life cannot be emphasized too much, for it is that important! Claire was wisely choosing to remind herself that in any given moment–on any given day–something wonderful was welcome in her life. She was, in effect, telling the Universe that she was open to receiving the good that was available. Do you believe, as I believe, that our thinking influences our experience? Or do you believe that life, and our experience of it, is actually random?

Think about this for a moment, if you wish. Does it seem logical that when we direct our attention to a something-wonderful point of view we leave ourselves open to the good, the beautiful, the ideals that we hold most dear? Does believing that something wonderful is going to happen–in our career, in our relationships, in our family, in our finances–attune ourselves to that which we seek? Conversely, if we attune ourselves to what seems terrible–both within and without–is it not logical that we make ourselves vulnerable to that reality?

As students of the Law of Attraction, a question may naturally arise in our minds: So, how do we actually open ourselves to the reality that we’re seeking? In part, by realizing three ways in which we unintentionally sabotage our dreams and goals:

  • The first and most obvious: Fear. So often, it is fear that makes us say no to a new experience. It is fear that disguises itself as common sense. It is fear that makes us think of what can go wrong, instead of what may go marvellously right. It is fear that keeps a ship safe–but rotting–in harbour, when it was meant to sail the seven seas.
  • The second: Confused thinking. If we truly don’t know what we desire, we cannot successfully achieve. We might imagine our desires as existing on the other side of a portal. If that portal is intermittently opening and closing–seemingly of its own accord–even our best efforts will be futile.
  • The third: Impatience. If we are unwilling to let the Universe work in its own way and its own time–through us–we may end something potentially good, before it has truly even begun.

I’ll wrap up this article by offering a suggestion: Consider writing your own fortune-cookie message, of your heart’s deepest desire. Write it in the present tense, beginning with “I am now…,” as though it already exists here and now, as a reality. Keep it close–perhaps in your purse or wallet–and refer to it daily, in moments of quiet reflection. The life we desire may be waiting just outside the 2,000 bits of data that we habitually process. A change in attitude–prompted by our own message–will begin the process of attracting the good we seek. We’ll do ourselves a favour by letting it in.

Dare to dream.

With heartfelt regards,

Art

Copyright © – 2016 – R. Arthur Russell

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Susie’s Going to Be Late!

Susie's Going To Be Late

“I’m going to be late! I’m going to be late! Susie just knows it! She can feel it in every fiber of her being. It seems normal to her, for she’s been late for as long as she can remember. She arrived late at her graduation party; she’s almost always a few minutes late for work; and she was even late to her best friend’s wedding! It’s just the way she is…or so she thinks.

What Susie isn’t aware of, is that it’s not by accident that she’s habitually late. The pattern of her behaviour began a long time ago, when she was just a little child. Her mother unintentionally reinforced the behaviour–those times when Susie was tardy to the dinner table–by repeatedly saying, “Well, our late little girl finally decided to make an appearance!” Her father also contributed to the programming by kidding that Susie would even “show up late to her own life!” Teachers, too, played their roles. Why am I mentioning this? To offer an explanation for the not-so-accidental results we may be manifesting in our lives.

There’s another point of which Susie is unaware: All these years, her subconscious mind has been eavesdropping on what she’s been telling herself. From every thought, word, and experience, it has formed the paradigms (collection of beliefs) that are governing almost every aspect of her life. Whenever Susie thinks she has allowed lots of time to prepare for work or a special occasion, her subconscious mind directs her to begin a minor task that will just take a few minutes; or convinces her to underestimate the time required to travel a certain distance; or trick her into forgetting to set her alarm.  It has a multitude of ways of delivering the results that Susie believes have been fated to her.

Susie is not alone; for all of us live with our unique paradigms. It’s part of life. And just as Susie knows that she’s going to be late, Elizabeth knows she’ll never find the man of her dreams; Ralph knows he’ll never be able to shed those extra pounds; Beverley knows her new business will probably fail like all of her others; and Tim knows that he’s an absolute klutz, especially when under stress. What none of them realize, is that as long as they keep reinforcing the same thought patterns, they’re going to keep manifesting the same results! They are–in a way–prisoners of their own lives; unaware that they are their own jailers.

For anything new to occur, we have to change our thinking and claim our power. It’s up to us. A deity is not floating upon a cloud, dictating that this will occur first, and then that. We are the impetus behind creation. It’s simple, really. Now, a question to consider: Are we going to learn how to think differently–and use our powers of imagination–or continue to be late for the wonderful life we deserve?

Dare to dream.

With heartfelt regards,

Art

Copyright © – 2016 – R. Arthur Russell

P.S. To view my ebook entitled Hold That Thought, please press here.

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A World of Difference

A World of Difference3

When asked How are you? or How’s your day going? many people answer by saying not too bad. Their reply is often automatic, with little or no awareness of what they’re telling the world…or themselves. They may even believe their reply is the equivalent of saying I’m good. It’s not. Not even remotely. Although that’s what we might assume–for consciously we translate the meaning–that’s not what the subconscious mind hears.

When we think or say a phrase with no, not, and never, our mind dismisses the term of negation and focuses on what follows. This is hardwired into our brains; it’s just the way they work. If you doubt this could be true, please take a look at the following:

  • Do not think of an elephant (You just thought of an elephant).
  • No stress (You just reaffirmed stress).
  • Not too bad (Your subconscious mind heard bad).
  • No problem (Your mind didn’t hear it’s okay).
  • No onions (Your server just heard onions, and now has to remember them–so as not to place them on your burger).

Is there a point to this? One even remotely connected to our understanding of the Law of Attraction? There certainly is: It’s important to remember that our true nature is that of creators. We may have bought into the illusion that all we are is flesh and bones; but we’re so much more! We’re the highest expression of the Creator of All, and as such we create in the same manner as our Creator. We use thoughts, words, focus, and–later–action to create what we’ve allowed (or deliberately placed) into our mind. If we desire to continue to have days that are not too bad, we needn’t change our words at all. If, however, we desire to raise the bar and strive for great days–or the life that we deserve–I’d like to suggest the following changes. So, once again, with feeling: How are you?

  • I’m great, thanks!
  • Excellent!
  • Fine, just fine.

Am I suggesting that we should become automatons, with canned dialogue that’s disconnected from truth? No. If we are feeling down, it may be appropriate to express our feelings and be real. Often, however, the expression (not too bad) isn’t even remotely connected to the actual state of our day or being. I’d also like to reiterate that the subconscious mind functions in a literal manner. It can neither reason nor question; nor is it capable of interpreting nuance, inflection, or sarcasm. It simply accepts meaning and content–including our words, and everyone else’s–at face value. It also functions 24/7, without a day off…ever!

Our choice of words is so important, I’m going to use an analogy to make the point even more clear. In this scenario, I’d like you to imagine that you’re a golf pro to a rising golf star. You’ve been entrusted with teaching him the intricacies of the game. You’re being paid very well, but you implicitly understand that your job depends on the outcome of an upcoming tournament, the kid’s first. You know that if he wins, you win. You also realize what happens if he loses.

An hour before the tournament is due to begin, you take the promising young player aside, look him directly in the eyes, and deliver the following pep talk: “I know you’re probably feeling a lot of pressure right now. That’s understandable. I just want to give you some last-minute pointers. First: Do not–whatever you do–overshoot on Hole Three. Second: Don’t catch that gaping bunker on Hole Seven. Third: Never–I repeat, never–lose your focus while putting! Got it?”

Having read and–I hope–understood the first part of this article regarding the words we use and how the subconscious functions, what instructions do you think the subconscious heard just prior to tee off? Right! Overshoot on Hole Three; catch the bunker on Hole Seven; and lose your focus while putting! I think we also realize that your days as a golf pro will be over at the end of the day! We’ll benefit by understanding this: We should never place a thought process into the mind if we don’t desire to experience it in our outer reality. Real life situations–with consequences far more important than a round of golf–may be at stake:

  • I am vibrantly healthy versus I am not sick.
  • I am in the process of creating great prosperity versus I am not poor.
  • I am going to ace this exam versus I am not going to fail.

While this might seem like fun and games, I’d like to emphasize that the words we use literally make a world of difference. The results we experience are intimately connected to what we tell ourselves and others. Our subconscious mind is always listening, always present, always ready to act. We do ourselves a tremendous service by letting it overhear something good.

Dare to dream.

With heartfelt regards,

Art

Copyright © – 2016 – R. Arthur Russell

P.S. To view my ebook entitled Hold That Thought, please press here.

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Paradigms

Paradigms

As deliberate creators on the path to living our dreams, it’s important that we gain an understanding about the concept of paradigms. Here’s the simple definition from Merriam-Webster Dictionary:

  •  a model or pattern for something that may be copied
  •  a theory or a group of ideas about how something should be done, made, or thought about

What does this mean? It means that our subconscious mind holds patterns for almost everything we do. We talk in habitual ways; we act in habitual ways, we eat and dress and work and live in habitual ways. The subconscious takes care of most of these functions automatically, freeing us to address whatever present-moment needs arise.

Now, for the most part this is very well and good. Imagine how difficult it would be to hold a conversation during a road trip if our subconscious mind wasn’t handling the details! Each and every driving experience would be new! We’d be so distracted we could barely talk! It would be as though we were sixteen all over again, clutching the wheel for the first time! We would have to relearn every aspect of driving–the rules of the road, the various functions of the vehicle, when to signal, how often to check mirrors!

Fortunately (at least if we’ve developed good driving habits), the subconscious mind handles the bulk of those tasks for us. We automatically signal our intention to turn either right or left; we automatically know how to accelerate properly when entering a freeway; we automatically know how to apply the right pressure to the brake pedal.

Now, unfortunately, most of us are likely holding negative beliefs that are also functioning. These beliefs may be preventing us from attaining the success we desire! For example: a fear of public speaking may hinder or absolutely prevent us from taking our turn on stage, even if that is required to move ahead with our dreams! That fear-based paradigm–or deeply held collection of beliefs–may need to be addressed.

We become more aware of the contents of our subconscious mind by looking at the world around us, for it is actually a mirror of our innter state of Being. Do we have the wonderful relationships that we desire? If not, we might question whether paradigms–related to pain associated with a past love affair–could be sabotaging every new relationship; perhaps by allowing us to utter inappropriate comments, or by projecting a lack of confidence or a fear of commitment. Such behaviour might be all that was required to make our hidden beliefs regarding relationships a reality. Different paradigms–related to our degree of health, wealth, and every other aspect of life–may also be hindering our success.

Awareness is the key! We gain this through paying greater attention as we go about our day. Invited to a situation outside our comfort zone, we can silently notice the subtle feelings of discomfort that may arise; then question the possible causes. As a youth, is it possible that we were told that we were shy? Did our subconscious mind absorb this belief, and thereby cause us to behave in ways that reflect that belief? Did we accept–as part of the our own unconscious programming–that we don’t deserve to attend such a function?

I’ll end this post with one with one of my favourite quotations, which perfectly fits the subject of paradigms. It’s by Joseph Campbell, author, lecturer, and American Mythologist: “The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.” What cave do you fear? Is it time that you step toward it and take a peek inside?

Dare to dream.

With heartfelt regards,

Art

Copyright © – 2016 – R. Arthur Russell

P.S. To view my ebook entitled Hold That Thought, please press here.

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Shine Some Light

Beam of light

In our journey to learn more about the Law of Attraction–and to empower ourselves and thus manifest our desires–it’s necessary to find out what is going on in our subconscious mind. This basically equates to taking a look under the hood of our car, something that most of us don’t like to do. We usually just drive and drive, turning this way and that, oblivious to how the engine is functioning. That is, of course, until the car coughs and sputters, or otherwise reveals that it’s running poorly. As long as we’re rolling along, most of us never give our subconscious mind a look. For the sake of manifesting our desires, however, we’re going to have to take a look. A close look. With practice, we’ll find that doing so greatly increases our effectiveness.

So…how do we examine something (the subconscious mind) that is intangible? Simple, by looking at our surroundings and noticing what we’re experiencing in our life. It’s the same principle by which we know that wind exists. We don’t see the wind, but we do sense its effects–the bending of treetops, the turning of windmills, and kites flying aloft. When we come to the conclusion that nothing happens by accident–that there is cause and effect underlying the situations of our life–we will understand that a part of us must have mentally agreed to whatever is happening. Or, at the very least, that we held a belief in tune with the occurrences to some degree.

We get a glimpse of our subconscious mind through feelings. Feelings arise for reasons. They are our link–subtle and sometimes not so subtle–that serves as an indicator to the subconscious thoughts and beliefs (the engine) propelling us through life. Bob Proctor, and many other teachers of the Law of Attraction, call these hidden beliefs paradigms. They are basically the mold or blueprint–held in the subconscious mind–that gives rise to everything that we can sense in the outer world. What we see, hear, smell, taste, and touch is a reflection of these paradigms.

How we become aware of hidden thoughts and feelings (that either empower or disempower) might be easier if we imagine a length of invisible barb wire separating our conscious and subconscious mind. Now, let’s also imagine a situation: Perhaps you’re invited to attend a party, or a concert, or a group meeting. Can you feel any–even subtle–feelings of discomfort? As though you’ve touched that invisible barb wire? If so, the feelings might indicate underlying thoughts/beliefs related to feeling like an outsider, or holding a dislike for the type of concert or group.

In another example, let’s examine the thoughts that might arise for someone who has caught a cold. On the second day, the person might feel surpisingly better. He/she might even consider resuming an exercise program…but (using the barb-wire concept), the person might become aware of subconscious thoughts such as these: That can’t be; I have a cold, and I shouldn’t be feeling better this soon! The old beliefs–that a cold has to run a term of 5-7 days–might be operating. What to do? If it’s not going to cause any harm, the person might be wise to resume his/her exercise program. Doing so would be one way of resetting the paradigm regarding the duration of colds and the strength of our immune system.

Paradigms hold a powerful effect over every aspect of your life. Pay attention. We have subconscious beliefs about everything–including expectations regarding health, wealth, relationships, potential for success, and lifespan. Listen to your feelings. Question whether your subconscious paradigms are serving your best interests. If they’re not, maybe it’s time to shine some light on them and take a big step forward on your journey of positive change.

Dare to dream.

With heartfelt regards,

Art

Copyright © – 2016 – R. Arthur Russell

P.S. To view my ebook entitled Hold That Thought, please press here.

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