Most of us are familiar with the saying, “I’ll be with you in a moment.” We have probably heard it or even used it ourselves. It’s often stated in polite conversation, to indicate that there will be a short delay before an intended interaction will occur. In the majority of cases, it is uttered perfunctorily; in much the same way that an empty glass is handed to someone who is thirsty for water. If we care about the depth of our communication (and I hope that we do), we would be wise to contemplate the deeper meaning of the expression.
In the deepest sense of the saying, it’s actually impossible to “be” with someone in a moment. By the most literal interpretation, Being only occurs in the eternal and timeless NOW. To accept anything less, means that we are dealing with the concept of time and, thus, interactions between conceptual selves. What this basically means is that my thought of “me” is dealing your thought of “you.” While this may seem to be of trifling consequence, I assure you it is not.
To the degree that the interpretation of the expression differs, the communication between persons is highly vulnerable to conflict or misinterpretation. Why? Because the definition of a “moment” is subject to various opinions. To one person, a moment is literally one second–one little blip of a digital time piece. To another person, a moment, used offhandedly, might signify a lapse of five or ten minutes. Of course, we’re well aware that all of our words are not interpretted literally; it’s up to us to determine when we are speaking literally or figuratively. A personal best habit, however, would be to choose our words wisely.
The most important point of this article (of truly being present) can be expressed more easily through the following: Have you ever shared the company of someone and asked, or been asked, “Where are you?” If so, you understand that the two persons, although physically close, were dimensions apart. One might have been quite present, awaiting a reply. The other, due to physical fatigue or a busy mind, may have drifted mentally and, thus, not been present. To truly “be” with someone (in various situations, as deemed socially appropriate), we must meet them at the level of heart. In this placeless place of sympathetic resonance, words and actions do not occur.
If we desire to truly share openly and honestly with other dear souls who are taking this apparent journey called “life,” we owe it to ourselves and them to be “here” with them NOW. To do so requires that we get out of our busy mind and be present: such is the price of admission to real, meaningful communication. In time, everyone is being defrauded, in varying degrees. When we, as Presence, are there for “others,” we also benefit; for this means that we’re not functioning on behalf of the “voice in the head” that claims to be our real identity. With regard to issues that really matter, to settle for anything less than heart-based communication is to offer an empty glass.
Dare to dream (and care for one another).
With heartfelt regards,
Copyright © – 2022 – R. Arthur Russell
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