What We’re Looking For…

Everyone is seeking happiness. Ask persons what they want, and they’ll likely respond with one of the following superficial answers: a relationship, more money, a promotion, a new car or house, or world travel. On a deeper level, however, they want some or all of these for one simple reason: They want to be happy. In our blindness, we erroneously attribute happiness to things. If so, we’re bound to suffer–bigtime. The reason? Human happiness is fleeting and always on the move. Inherent in pleasure is its polar opposite, which is pain. Doubt this can be true?

Here is a simple illustration: Johnny loves chocolate cake. It just tastes so good, especially when it has thick icing. One piece leads to two; two to three; and just about the time that three peices is leading to four, Johnny gets a stomach ache. Our folly is attributing goodness to a thing which eventually must yield its badness. If Johnny continues on his path, he’s likely to end us overweight and in declining health. In and of itself, the cake isn’t bad; it’s Johnny’s relationship to it that’s causing the problem. Think it’s any different for the person that believes that a relationship will make life just perfect? Or the workaholic who sacrifices family life and health for….?

The other examples–of relationships, more money, promotions, a new car or house, and world travel–can logically be taken to the point of turning into pain. If we lean on any of them to make us feel good, all of them will no doubt let us down when we experience the pain of that dependency. The key to transcend this trap is to discover that deeper dimension within ourselves that is already whole and, therefore, in need of nothing. That dimension is what St. Francis of Assisi was referring to when he stated: “What we’re looking for is what’s looking.”

Our essential nature is completely overlooked by the majority of persons. Why? Because we’ve become lost to our senses and been conditioned to believe that the body-mind (the person) is the sum total of our being. It is not. To make our apparent human journey, we must temporarily forget What we truly are–Spirit. Live as a human long enough, with little or no awareness of our deeper nature, and we are bound to suffer. The pain of polarity, and year after year of striving to arrive at a fictional destination, is just too much to endure. In time, we tire and grow weary. What we’re truly seeking is to rediscover that overlooked part of ourselves that will make us feel whole and complete.

Consciousness is not personal; it only appears that way. In the body-mind, it is but a reflection of the one-and-only Consciousness, which is Universal. Our true nature is unbounded, eternal, immortal. We are “That.” It doesn’t die because it was never born. Birth and death belong to the body-mind, but not to us. We are beyond time and space, which are rendered by the mind. Our true joy will only be found when we recognize our deeper dimension of Self. Then and only then can we enjoy that piece of cake without depending on it for our happiness; nor anything else, for that matter. Time spent in meditation is one of the ways to discover the doorway that leads to our essential Self. For anyone interested, press here to view a brief introduction to self-inquiry by Rupert Spira.

Dare to dream (and care for one another).

With heartfelt regards,


Copyright © – 2020–R. Arthur Russell

P.S. Please share this article if you believe it holds value. If you’d like to view my latest book (This Taste of Flesh and Bones–released September 8, 2020), press here. May it help you in your spiritual journey. 🙏🙏

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4 thoughts on “What We’re Looking For…

  1. Hi there motorcycle dude/guru, I’m enjoying your book btw. I’m thinking happiness is a good answer, but most people want to be just seen, heard, acknowledged. Even animals, wild or domesticated. In all my travels I’ve seen all people want to love and be loved. Maybe that’s the minimum (seen/heard/acknowledged) and maximum we hope for. Look at the difference acknowledging/asking a clerk how they are makes in a transaction. Many look genuinely surprised to be asked, yet, we’re all here to help each other….Take care.


    1. Hi Linda. Thanks for your kind words about the book. I think ego needs to be seen more than our true Self, which experiences Itself in everyone, as everyone. Perhaps love “is” happiness, our very nature. I fully agree–taking the time to ask someone “how is your day going?” makes such a difference. Take good care, too, and please say “hi” to that husband guy.


  2. Thanks Art for sharing. The link to Rupert’s discussion on self inquiry was a great reminder for me. Keep on inspiring.


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